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Situation + Feeling + Request (SFR)
A vulnerability-based model that names your emotional experience. Effective when the issue is about feeling unheard, unsupported, or overlooked.
Template
In [situation], I felt [feeling]. I'd really value it if [request].
Example in Action
“In last week's team meeting, when my proposal was moved to "parking lot" without discussion, I felt dismissed. I'd really value it if proposals could get at least a brief discussion before being tabled, even if the answer is "not now."”
Quick Tips
- •Naming a feeling is not weakness — it's data about the working relationship.
- •Choose precise emotion words: "dismissed" is clearer than "bad."
- •The request should be small and doable so the manager can act immediately.
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